Friday, November 14, 2008

Something of Importance from Another Blog

There is a wealth of good posts from bloggers on the 'Net that I enjoy, but I rarely re-post them because my own blog would probably been choked up numerous works. Still, there are times that posts like this should be passed around.

I have to thank Kim at Equal But Different for her true compassion for men and even moving a cynic like myself to promote it, even if she was not satisfied that it was as good as she wanted it. I wish there were more women like you.

And don't worry, it's good enough.

Imagine what must it be like to be a man in today's society.

I want everyone to take the time to ponder that.

What must it be like to be a little boy? An innocent, sweet full of love and joy. Of course, that love and joy must fade into insecurity and self hatred when you go to school and are treated differently because you're a boy, when you're expected to behave differently, better, toward the little girls while they're allowed to treat you any way they choose and you must simply endure it because they are girls and you are a boy.

Imagine what it must be like to be a little boy who's father, his hero, is made to leave the home when Mommy files for divorce. You know that your father is who you're most like, the person you emulate and hope to grow up to be like.....the person Mommy has renamed *sshole, screams at on the phone and says horrible things about to her family and friends.

Imagine what it must be like to be that sweet, innocent boy and to be subjected to a constant stream of negative images and portrayals of men, knowing all the while that a man is precisely what you'll grow up to be.

Imagine what it must be like to be a teenage boy. You go to high school and college and all you see and hear are rape statistics and how boys and men are dangerous predators. The father you sorely need has been alienated from you for many years. He tried and tried but Mom made things as difficult as possible and now your relationship is awkward at best.

Imagine what it must be like to be a young man. All you want is to find that special girl to fall in love with, to marry and to start a family with, but even though you are a nice guy and have always tried to be a good person, every girl you meet assumes the worst of you. You want to fall in love, but you become more and more jaded as every relationship you have is with someone who is shallow, selfish, materialistic and narcissistic.

Imagine what it must be like to be a young man. You enlisted in the military. You did your duty to your country and served with honor. You watched those with whom you served, men you'd come to view as brothers, return home in coffins and sometimes you can't sleep at night because the things you bury away during the day come back to haunt you in your sleep. For your efforts, you have health problems that nobody cares about and hear that whatever happened to you and your brothers was your own fault....because you're men and, afterall, it's violent men who are the ones who start the wars.

Imagine what it must be like to be a man. You've given up on marriage, now that you're older, even if you found someone you wanted to spend your life with, you don't dare. You realize that the family court system is stacked against you and should your marriage not work out, you'll risk losing everything. You've given up on your dream of family and children because you don't want your son to ever go through what you went through. You're not a coward, but you've decided to fore go the joys of fatherhood because you think it will be easier never knowing such love than to know it and have it ripped away from you. For your efforts of self-preservation you are called a loser, a perpetual child; there must be something wrong with you, it just isn't normal.......

Or, perhaps, you did find that special someone and you decided it was worth the risk. You got married, you had children. You worked hard to provide the very best for your children. You wanted to spend as much time as possible with your family, but work requirements kept you away from home more than you liked. You told yourself it was o.k., a sacrifice you were willing to make in order to provide for your family. You wanted to give them all the things they told you they wanted and needed.....and then one day, your wife tells you she isn't happy, you work too much, you're always gone, you're not taking care of her emotional needs. All too quickly divorce papers are filed and since, according to the judge, you were not very involved in raising the children, you are relegated to the status of non-custodial parent. You now come home to an empty apartment, no more do you hear cries of 'Daddy' when you walk through the door or get to tuck somebody in at night. You see your kids when your ex-wife allows, when it's convenient for her and as long as you remain in her good graces.

Imagine what it must be like to be a man. You walk down the street, children avoid you and women watch you warily. Although the words are not vocalized, you can see the accusation written clearly in their eyes and on their faces.....rapist, pedophile, abuser. You know that all it takes is an allegation, a few words, and your life can be ruined, simply because you are a man.

Imagine must it be like to be a man.


Iguana said...

Excellent post.

This is indeed what it is like to be a boy and a man.

A short story to highlight how real this is. My six year old nephew was getting picked on by a girl bully in elementary school. She was known by the teachers as a bully. One day in the lunch line, he got fed up and pulled her dress up.

Now, a 6 old boy does not think in terms of pulling a dress up being a sexually provocative act. At most, he sensed that it would embarrass her.

Well, the wacky feminist mother stormed into the school when she heard the story and demand that my nephew be removed from the school OR she would press a sexual harassment suite against both the school and against my nephew. UNBELIEVABLE!

The school administration agreed that it was absurd, but said that given the climate and the laws such as VAWA (which in VAWA II has spread to treating boys as natural predators) that they had to react to this crazy mother.

My nephew was removed from the school for his own protection.

Imagine what it must be like to be THAT sweet, innocent boy. My nephew.

I don't know how much further this can go, but it does not seem to be slowing down. If anything, it will speed up with Obama and his gender feminist supporters.

One wonders why there are so few men's rights activists, but I sure am one after what happened to my innocent nephew and pain it caused his parents.

Thank you so much for this blog!

Anonymous said...

Iguana, your post sent a chill down my spine.

It can't go on that way. Something will have to give.

The dam has cracks in it!

Anonymous said...

I have a nephew who is eighteen months old and I surely don't want him to go through the character assassination that is bestowed upon men by no fault of their own.

Feminists sure are nasty creatures!

Anonymous said...

One more thing to add. One of the many consequences that came about from the actions that are so eloquently stated by Kim is the behavior of young males. Without the guiding influences of older males, they revert to the old behavior hardwired in to the hind brain, primitive but helpful in survival. Many of these young males form a loose coalition centered around some commonalities such as teams, geographic locales, in essence, a tribe, in modern parlance, a gang. They are looking out for themselves, they are looking for anything that they can get, goods, money, drugs, sex partners, anything to satisfy the base desires that they have not learn to control. They will look for "respect" without knowing how to earn it. They do not understand the concept of giving respect to get respect, they do not have the capacity to understand how respect is earned among men, so they go for the lowest common denominator that is the closest thing to respect that they know, that is fear. They posture, they intimidate, they look for that primal sign in the eyes of those they encounter, the fear that they can elicit from others is as heady as any "respect" they can get. This fear is what they are after, not knowing that it is not respect no longer bothers them.

I know this, those young males don't. I see this everyday it breaks your heart to see it. It also makes you reach for that collapsible baton under your jacket.

Sad situation all around.

Anonymous said...

The situation is very bad for men right now.
Give it a few more years, until the wheel starts spinning the other way, things will become very nasty for women.

Thank God that you are a man, not a woman.

The furthest the pendulum will go, the hardest it will come down.

I don't think we'll have to wait much longer now: there's great satisfaction coming soon for men...what goes around comes around. We'll get even. Just watch.

Anonymous said...

Women are going to find themselves wishing they never learned to expect the worst from every man they meet. Because it will become a self fulfilling prophecy that will be written in their blood and suffering. By treating men in this way, they're training young men into becoming what they used to be, barbarians who have no compunctions about killing and taking what they want. Get ready for the chaos girls, because it's you who have destabilized civilization. Women pushed the pendulum way too far, and now when it comes swinging back, it will destroy them.