Thursday, June 18, 2009

Overburdened Skanks, Datelessness, and A Modern Dilemma

On occasion, I will casually glance over the complaints of women about men on forums and blogs concerning their own love lives. Certain things spring to mind any time that I indulge, and it only confirms what I already know.

If anything, I find it curious that someone would not only price themselves out of the market, possess a mammoth laundry list of items in which they expect a man to live up to (and not adhere to herself), all the while wondering why she can't find a good man. Yep. All men are bastards. Lazy. Fat and indolent. Homosexual. Boring. Little character or integrity. Womanizing. Emotionally bankrupt. And yet our prime example of skankdom can't figure out that she has expired herself into dating oblivion.

Take note on the single mom who writes about her kids and how she places them first above all else. Fair enough. But most men read that and realize they are not at the high end of priorities. Further that with reality that many men simply do not want to raise someone else's progeny. Ask them; most would rather have their own DNA passed down and be provider for children that they are certain of paternity, or in a minority of cases, opt out and be childfree.

It doesn't seem to sink until later in life. Of course, when darling figures out that she's not attracting men 24/7 and not receiving free drinks and drugs at the club because her looks are fading, she can always blame men wholesale and become bitter at the prospect that the alpha male celebrity is not coming to save her as a white knight riding a horse.

The shock that these women meet head on when they find that they are not having men gravitating towards them---as they had in their younger years---is maddening. I've read essay-length laments on how romance and sex is dead in their lives.

Guess what sweetheart---welcome to what many men have had to face since high school on upwards. There are men that have had to navigate through skank and gender feminist infested colleges and other institutions in order to find a gem in a pile of mediocrity. They've faced alienation, depression, mockery, constant rejection, sexual frustation, incessant insults to their masculinity . . . all the while being told to grin and bear it.

Well, I guess it's just natures's way of telling sweetheart it's her turn.

And here's even something to inspire more eye-rolling. I was lurking on one of the forums in question, and a particular single mom exclaimed, "as if we are supposed to feel grateful a man would date us!"

You should Virginia---you are, to a large extent, a product of seriously damaging social engineering that is gradually backfiring. Hard.

All assumptions about cuckolding and sociobiology aside, when push comes to shove most men who want to engage in parental investment desire that the infant you birthed had attributes of his genetic legacy as well. A man who takes up the banner of playing surrogate daddy and entering the arrangment of a reconstituted family has a uncertain future, and like it or not, the instinct to protect those children are not same as yours. Period.

Not to mention men, over the long haul, don't like to find they are second fiddle to everything when they are giving their all. To add insult to injury, the more hardened ballbusters exude more toxic attitudes and entitlement than their mispend youth---a youth that should been employed to attract a good, hardworking man that they damned as boring and geeky during their party-til-ya-puke daze.

Hence the dilemma. Instead of being more seductive, accomidating, and understanding of a potential male partner, they carry the scars from their whoring and broken relationships and expect other men---in their hubris---to pick up the tab and "man up."

What reasonable man who---in his right mind---would possibly embrace this?

Let me tell you a story. A while back I had the inclination to do something I thought was rather ego-gratifying, but there was also a method to my madness here.

There exist free profile sites that either rate or allow you to show a little more than church attire in a way to attract the opposite sex. My curiosity got the best of me, and since a plethora of women were quite content to display their taut bodies in tiny bikinis, I did a series of my own beekcake shots. Now, before you think this has gone to my head, I was a little surprised at my own athletic look, although years of off and on training in grappling, boxing, Muay Thai, and working out on a regular basis tends to mold your physique. I was also ambiguous in my ad, neither stating that I was looking for an eternal covenant or good old fashioned sex.

You can see who's checked out on the sites. Not surprisingly, I received many, but what was paramount was the ones who did write me off the cuff, including a couple of women who were not exactly shy about how much they liked what they saw.

They were almost all older women. And I can hear the MGTOWs right now thinking about the expiration date factor, or perhaps a cougar who wanted to snag a younger buff guy before the twlight of her years were upon her.

Believe it or not, I didn't give them that pleasure, even.

These were the women, I am sure, that would have shunned me as a creep or cannon fodder when I was a gangly teenager if they had been an age peer. Suddenly, I was "hot" and "gorgeous" even if my pics were rather histrionic. That's what I would have been dubbed not so long ago.

Of course, rather than entertain them other than the obvious, I did what the bitchy, haughty, game-playing skanks have done in their prime years to would be suitors---I simply shunned them with my silence and drifted from cyberspace to my own peace with my own terms in real life.

Payback is a bitch, isn't it?


Anonymous said...

Yup. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt.

When I was young, in school, geeky as hell, I couldn't get a date on a bet. Time passes. At about age 30 I married and quickly discovered that I was NOT her top priority, though I was committed. To make a long story short, we divorced.

Now, I'm old, in my 60s. I find myself, rich retired old fart that I am, overrun with women who find me desirable. Yet, I'm that same geeky guy I was when I was a student, maybe a bit more polished, better educated and profoundly more wealthy. Yup, you guesed it, I've figured it out. -- I turn them all away, even the comely 20-somethings. I have what I want and need: a few lady friends who all know of one another, all of whom provide benefits, all of whom have their own lives, interests, wherewithall and all of whom think me just fine just the way I am.

I suppose I got lucky with the starter wife. She taught me the importance of gender roles and more importantly what my gender role expectations were. The overwhelming majority of American women just did not meet my expectations. They are there, and in good numbers. Finding them takes a real change of venue, however, and a set of diagnostic questions and observational techniques that is alien to many mens thinking. Abandoning the FemiNazi indoctrination was the hardest part.

Good luck.

Michelle Therese said...

"Abandoning the FemiNazi indoctrination was the hardest part."

But my God, when you do so you finally achieve true liberation! I left college and now I'm a barefoot-and-pregnant housewife married to an older farmer-man whom I love with every fiber of my being. Just popped out kid #1 seven months ago and I'm preggo with kid #2. Married, with kids. Life is good!

The Feminists can keep their crazy corner of the world. It was never fulfilling and nothing but pain. Now, I'm a free woman! What will they be in twenty years? Lonely and childless. Their old age is going to be hell. Cats can only give so much love...

Anonymous said...

A man’s stock will rise as he ages… A woman’s stock will plummet as she ages… plain and simple, the depreciating asset that is woman.


Anonymous said...

I feel no sympathy for Feminists. These loud shrill sexually loose women are making life hell for good women. I don't blame some men for feeling disgruntled at the rotten treatment some women subject them to.

Anonymous said...

Love your blog, man. Are you aware of Henry Makow's article that deals with the same topic of "older women who have hit the limit of their attractiveness and are now desperate to get married?"

check out my blog also, "I Hate White Women",

Sean Griffin said...

i agree 100%, as did Anonymous up top there. High school i was the geeky kid, spending lunch in the computer room.

now i'm 35, the same guy i was in high school, in the same shape, but i have women of all ages finding me 'gorgeous' or 'so hot'

i do recognize, however, that i have a habit of sweeping women off their feet (usually early 20s) sleeping with them as much as i can in a few days, using them up like kleenex, and moving on to the next one.

maybe i'm sick and twisted, maybe it's my unconscious way of getting back at all those pretty girls in high school who made fun of me. Maybe it's just me.
Maybe i should have been a jerk in high school, maybe i should have spray painted graffiti instead of writing poetry

Sami said...

Another interesting post.
I've never been one who can resist a good debate and I love hearing other people's views.

Obviously I'm perfectly aware my opinions won't count for much here, but that's ok, I'm enjoying reading your views anyway :)

Well there's one point I do disagree on, obviously, lol. I don't think as a single mother we should feel grateful if a man chooses to date us, rofl, though I have to say I personally have never been made to feel like they're scraping the bottom of the dating barrel with me, maybe I was just lucky.

Having said that, there are points I strongly agree on. A woman's "standards" these days is ridiculously high, unreachably so. Let's face it, no one's perfect are they.

Ironically I do agree with your high priority comment. Absolutely. It goes without saying that a child will automatically take one top priority spot, that's just common sense isn't it, but why should the man in said girl's life feel like they're second rate. My view is if you can't devote the time and energy, affection, love and commitment to a relationship, then don't be in one. Any relationship needs one on one time between you and the significant other, time away from the kids, and if you can't do that, then don't date, simple really.

I do agree that double standards are a pain in the whatsit. I can't obviously speak for men, not being one lol, but I do agree it works both ways and if you're going to complain about something (general you, not you you) then take a look at yourself first. As the religious would say "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"


"Hence the dilemma. Instead of being more seductive, accomidating, and understanding of a potential male partner, they carry the scars from their whoring and broken relationships and expect other men---in their hubris---to pick up the tab and "man up.""

Yup, quite a few do (I actually appreciate the fact that you realise not all do, but we're talking majority here aren't we) I can't tell you how often I've nearly blown a fuse at women like this. I just want to scream shut up and get over it, move on with your life. I bear certain scars from my ending relationship, I think everyone does once a relationship has crashed and burned. Some people's scars run deeper than others, but having been in a situation myself where I was made to pay for the wrong done to an ex over the course of the years, I stand and applaud anyone who wouldn't put up with that.

I applaud you sir, you know your own mind, you're clearly intelligent and have put a lot of thought into your articles. That deserves respect. I don't have to agree with every word you say to understand and respect your views and see where you and others are coming from.

Like I said, I don't expect my opinion to count for much here, that's beside the point. I personally am enjoying reading your articles and thoughts and hope you don't mind if I keep popping in every now and then to read :)

Have a good one,

Anonymous said...

I havent dated in years,a mot of woman just arent attractive anymore,the last thing in the world I need is an obese,entitlement minded woman with a princess attitude.All they bring to the table nowadays is a vagina,and do we really need that,with the rate of std's???Your taking a big chance there.
I dont need an alpha male in my home with boobs telling me what to do,and If I was married,always having that threat of no contest divorce over my head esepcailly if a child is involved???
As an american male,I never thought I would start searching out latina or foreign woman,but thats exactly what american men are doing.
There are no foreign dating sites for foreign men to meet american woman for a reason,and what would that reason be??

Anonymous said...

I remember as a younger men starving for dates...Then I became a bouncer/security guy in a club...
Chicks would come up to me,rub all over me....Compete for my attention,slip their phone numbers...
I was taken aback...American chicks never loved us....
Its about status with their shallow girlfriends....Power,your a womans meal ticket in many cases....hell...Your a trophy husband...To be shown to her shallow girlfriends...
I think its also American culture...
At this point,I believe most of us are mentally ill and dont even know it...
Mentally ill with ego,a grandiose sense of self worth....etc...etc...
I used to think it was me with women....That something was wrong with me till I got older...
With all washed up women showing up that we as men had asked out 10 years before when they were without child,in shape....
Then hoards of nasty,overpriced,obese,broke women with babies daddies and no place to go really in life show up...
Dont ever open your doors to these types of women...
I just cant believe what the average western woman has to offer us??
Where is this successful womans nice house,where is her sports car,where is her excess money to play with,where is her good credit,where are these women that are in shape,dont have someone elses kids or a drug or alcohol problem...
Its so wide spread...As a culture cannot move higher than the moral position of its women....
I dont even think America is going to make it as screwy as many of us are....