Just A Few Thoughts About How Women Think of Nice Guys . . .

stonerwithaboner had snatched a quote from Feminist Critics that he liked, so I'll repeat it here with some commentary:

The problem is that the Nice Guy is the target of a modern witch hunt. The Nice Guy is considered a target, a wounded man because he dares speak out about his loneliness. Women don’t like that, and men who are too obsessed with sexual competition, see him as a target. All the nasty things said about nice guys are nothing but rationalizations for women having no compassion for emotionally distressed men, and men following their animal competitive instinct.
Before we can address the attack on nice guys, first we need to know what it is based on. It is not based on what women say it is. It is based on the feeding frenzy instinct, the desire for women to cull men from the herd to reduce unwanted attention, and for men it is to reduce competition.

I think this pretty valid thinking.  

Personally, I'm pretty much done with the nice guy/bad boy terms, but Jacalope is on to something here.  A man that values his sense of self and being on more than one level, and has been marginalized wrongly is often stigmatized---or even demonized---for openly lamenting his condition as unfair.  Men who are viewed and treated as suspect or not as prized as other men by women are often seen as weak or undesirable despite their attributes.  He's someone either to exploit or pass up.  The frustrating truth is that this actually compounds the problem; regardless of what people believe, there is a hegemony, a hierarchy of sorts in the dating and mating world, and women who want strict choices who they favor, and they alongside with men who don't want rivals are keen to dump on anyone not considered suitable no matter how good the man really is at heart.

If women clearly perceived the NG as a full-fledged human being, it would mean they would have to act accordingly---his pleasure and pain, joy and suffering, dreams and nightmares, and happiness and sorrow would be something not to dismiss, and reducing him to second class citizen status or lower would be difficult.  Since so many Ameriskanks want to be the ones desired and sit in the driver's seat---even passive aggressively---having to deal with a man normally considered not as up to par as an equal would be a struggle for them.  It would mean that their personal power would be on a level playing field with those same men.  And it would not be so easy to explain why they throw themselves at "alphas" and yet demand a NG to kow tow to ludicrous demands and moods while still remaining the one with the hands on the proverbial reins.  

Deep down, it seems that Ameriskanks have little respect, understanding, real passion, or sympathy towards men they want as front men, walking ATMs, workhorses, and whipping boys.  The "All the nasty things said about nice guys are nothing but rationalizations for women having no compassion for emotionally distressed men . . . " is one the main motivations beyond the febrile rants about "nice guys."  Simply put, it's a glib and smug excuse to treat men like shit sans accountability.  But don't you dare criticize women for their feelings, wants, expectations, or react to them as a spoiled, would-be princess without a throne and a broken crown.  You're just a misogynist if you have the gall.